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Is Polyamory Right For You?

A community growing in visibility and popularity, polyamory is quickly becoming the new normal. As society becomes more open to non-traditional relationships, those who struggle with monogamy have a chance to thrive by finding love in many places.

Polyamory is essentially the opposite of monogamy. A polyamorous person can have multiple relationships with different people at the same time, with various degrees of commitment to each. In a polyamorous relationship, all parties involved know and support their partner in having multiple partners, and might have multiple partners themselves.

Polyamorous relationships can have many variations – they might be a throuple (a relationship where all three people are equally committed to one another), they might have a primary partner who they’re most devoted to and secondary partners, or they could have multiple relationships with equal status through all of them.

Interested? Here are three signs that polyamory might be right for you:

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You enjoy being a part of a community

If you’re the type of person that enjoys having many people in your life, then you might enjoy having multiple romantic relationships as well. The more partners you have, the more variety and support you gain, each with different skills to offer.

You have strong communication skills

Ask any polyamorous person how they make their relationships work and they'll likely say the same thing – communication. Communication is critical in a monogamous relationship, so you can imagine that the more people you add to the relationship, the more important it becomes. Polyamorous couples have to be honest with their partners because they’re sharing their time with other people, who all have their own thoughts and feelings that need to be considered.

You can work through feelings of jealousy

Some people believe that polyamorous people are somehow more evolved and never feel jealousy, but the reality is they’re simply better at recognising it for what it really is – insecurity. You might feel jealousy at some point in all aspects of life, professionally, academically, and, yes, romantically. But you can work through these insecurities and overcome them, and romantic jealousy is no different.

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Ultimately, the biggest sign that polyamory is right for you is simply that you’re interested in trying it out. More people than ever are engaging in non-traditional relationships, and are happier personally and romantically for it.

And hey, you’re pretty great right? Why not give more people the opportunity to love you.

For more information, check out:

Blog about polyamory - https://www.morethantwo.com/


A conventional girl on an unconventional blog, Sophie’s been curious about alternative lifestyles since she first stumbled across an episode of Oprah exploring polygamy. A second-year Professional Writing student at Algonquin College, Sophie loves reading, writing, and learning about different people and cultures.